Eliza Lynn Linton
The Girl of the Period (1868)
Time was when the phrase,
"a fair young English girl," meant the ideal of womanhood; to us, at
least, of home birth and breeding. It meant a creature generous, capable,
modest; something franker than a Frenchwoman, more to be trusted than an
Italian, as brave as an American but more refined, as domestic as a German and
more graceful. It meant a girl who could be trusted alone if need be, because
of the innate purity and dignity of her nature, but who was neither bold in
bearing nor masculine in mind; a girl who, when she married, would be her
husband's friend and companion, but never his rival; one who would consider his
interests as identical with her own, and not hold him as just so much fair game
for spoil; who would make his house his true home and place of rest, not a mere
passage-place for vanity and ostentation to pass through; a tender mother, an
industrious housekeeper, a judicious mistress.
We
prided ourselves as a nation on our women. We thought we had the pick of
creation in this fair young English girl of ours, and envied no other men their
own. We admired the languid grace and subtle fire of the South; the docility
and childlike affectionateness of the East seemed to us sweet and simple and
restful; the vivacious sparkle of the trim and sprightly Parisienne
was a pleasant little excitement when we met with it in its own domain; but our
allegiance never wandered from our brown-haired girls at home, and our hearts
were less vagrant than our fancies. This was in the old time, and when English
girls were content to be what God and nature had made them. Of late years we
have changed the pattern, and have given to the world a race of women as
utterly unlike the old insular ideal as if we had created another nation
altogether. The Girl of the Period, and the fair young English girl of the
past, have nothing in common save ancestry and their mother-tongue; and even of
this last the modern version makes almost a new language, through the copious
additions it has received from the current slang of the day.
The
Girl of the Period is a creature who dyes her hair and paints her face as the
first articles of her personal religion — a creature whose sole idea of life is
fun; whose sole aim is unbounded luxury; and whose dress is the chief object of
such thought and intellect as she possesses. Her main endeavour
is to outvie her neighbours
in the extravagance of fashion. No matter if, in the time of crinolines, she
sacrifices decency; in the time of trains, cleanliness; in the time of
tied-back skirts, modesty; no matter either, if she makes herself a nuisance
and an inconvenience to every one she meets; — the
Girl of the Period has done away with such moral muffishness
as consideration for others or regard for counsel and rebuke. It was all very
well in old-fashioned times, when fathers and mothers had some authority and
were treated with respect, to be tutored and made to obey, but she is far too
fast and flourishing to be stopped in mid-career by these slow old morals; and
as she lives to please herself, she does not care if she displeases every one else…. She cannot be made to see that modesty of
appearance and virtue in deed ought to be inseparable; and that no good girl
can afford to appear bad under pain of receiving the contempt awarded to the
bad.
This
imitation of the demi-monde in dress
leads to something in manner and feeling, not quite so pronounced perhaps, but
far too like to be honourable to herself or
satisfactory to her friends It leads to slang, bold talk and general fastness;
to the love of pleasure and indifference to duty; to the desire of money before
either love or happiness; to uselessness at home, dissatisfaction with the
monotony of ordinary life, horror of all useful work; in a word, to the worst
forms of luxury and selfishness — to the most fatal effects arising from want
of high principle and absence of tender feeling.
It is this envy of
the pleasures, and indifference
to the
sins,
of these women of the demi-monde which is doing
such
infinite mischief to
the
modern girl. They brush
too closely by
each other, if not in actual deeds, yet
in aims and feelings; for
the luxury which is bought by
vice with the one is that thing of all
in life most passionately desired
by the
other, though she is
not yet prepared to pay quite the
same price….
Love indeed is the last thing she thinks of, and the
least of the dangers besetting her. Love in a cottage — that seductive dream
which used to vex the heart and disturb the calculations of the prudent mother
— is now a myth of past ages. The legal barter of herself for so much money,
representing so much dash, so much luxury and pleasure — that is her idea of
marriage; the only idea worth entertaining. For all seriousness of thought
respecting the duties or the consequences of marriage, she has not a trace. If
children come, they find but a stepmother's cold welcome from her; and if her
husband thinks that he has married anything that is to belong to him — a tacens et placens uxor pledged
to make him happy — the sooner he wakes from his hallucination and understands
that he has simply married some one who will
condescend to spend his money on herself, and who will shelter her
indiscretions behind the shield of his name, the less severe will be his
disappointment. She has married his house, his carriage, his balance at the
banker's, his title; and he himself is just the inevitable condition clogging
the wheel of her fortune; at best an adjunct to be tolerated with more or less
patience as may chance. For it is only the old-fashioned sort, not Girls of the
Period pur sang, who marry for love, or
put the husband before the banker. But the Girl of the Period does not marry easily.
Men are afraid of her; and with reason. They may amuse themselves with her for
an evening, but they do not readily take her for life….
For,
at whatever cost of shocked self-love or pained modesty it may be, it cannot be
too plainly told to the modern English girl that the net result of her present
manner of life is to assimilate her as nearly as possible to a class of women
whom we must not call by their proper — or improper — name. And we are willing
to believe that she has still some modesty of soul left hidden under all this
effrontery of fashion, and that, if she could be made to see herself as she
appears to the eyes of men, she would mend her ways before too late….
When women become again what they were once they will
gather round them the love and homage and chivalrous devotion which were then
an Englishwoman's natural inheritance.